Vows, from the heart
Daunted by writing vows and publicly sharing your expression of love and the future you as a couple? Don’t worry, that is a common feeling. Your celebrant is right here to help you.
Please take the unique opportunity to express, in an uninterrupted, heartfelt moment, vows that will remain in your happiest memories for the rest of your life! I will print them as a keepsake, if you can provide them prior to the day. They can be secret from each other until the wedding day, or written together.
Sometimes the words you need to say come when you least expect it … when you listen to some of your favourite songs together or chat about what has been special to you both on your journey so far, or consider what led to this decision to marry.
... often it's just a walk in the park on your own, or driving somewhere on your own, or having a fun time out with your friends. Call me if you'd like to chat about what you're thinking you'd like to say, or need help to craft the right words, and I will help you. Some couples are chatting to AI as if it's a friend and lo and behold it's done for you!
You can keep it short and simple, such as
“You are my best friend, my confidant, my soulmate. I promise that I will do all in my power to keep it that way, and be the best friend you could wish for, always, as your lifelong partner. I love you. “
“I promise to be there for you, no matter what, to laugh with you, hold you, cry with you, without judgement, always with love. I trust that we will always discuss our challenges openly, with mutual respect and consideration. I love you. “
An old Irish saying which is lovely to add to vows or in the ceremony is:
From this day forward
You shall not walk alone
My heart will be your shelter
And my arms will be your home
Or you can share some moments when things happen in your everyday life that could be irritating but can also be a source of laughter and tolerance. My husband said in part of his vows that he promised not to get grumpy when I had searched everywhere for something that he, when asked, found in the first place I had looked!
Often, the questions your celebrant asks at the first contact will trigger ideas for your vows. We’re here for you!
A registry wedding has standardized vows.
The celebrant will remind you about the sincere commitment you are making, promising love, support and encouragement to each other. And that “…only through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping and supporting and believing in each other” can two people create a happy marriage. The vows are:
“I [insert full name] declare that I am freely entering into this marriage between myself and [insert full name]. I invite everyone to witness that I, [insert name] take you, [insert name] to be my legal husband/wife/partner. “